Communication is to relationships what breath is to life.

I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.

Your responses to the events of life are more important than the events themselves.

People prefer the certainty of misery to the misery of uncertainty

Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don't realize what messages they are sending.

The message sent is not always the message received.

We need to see ourselves as basic miracles.

I regard (parenting) as the hardest, most complicated, anxiety-ridden, sweat-and-blood-producing job in the world. Succeeding requires the ultimate in patience, common sense, commitment, humor, tact, love, wisdom, awareness, and knowledge. At the same time, it holds the possibility for the most rewarding, joyous experience of a lifetime, namely, that of being successful guides to a new and unique human being.

I think if I have one message, one thing before I die that most of the world would know, it would be that the event does not determine how to respond to the event. That is a purely personal matter. The way in which we respond will direct and influence the event more than the event itself.

Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human being living humanely is like. She is a person who understand, values and develops her body, finding it beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and to find ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of the old that is still useful and discarding what is not.

We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.

The symbol in Chinese for crisis is made up of two ideographs: one means danger, the other means opportunity. This symbol is a reminder that we can choose to turn a crisis into an opportunity or into a negative experience.

Parents teach in the toughest school in the world - The School for Making People. You are the board of education, the principal, the classroom teacher, and the janitor ...

In the nurturing family...parents see themselves as empowering leaders not as authoritative bosses. They see their job primarily as one of teaching their children how to be truly human in all situations. They readily acknowledge to the child their poor judgment as well as their good judgment; their hurt, anger, or disappointment as well as their joy. The behavior of these parents matches what they say.

Once a human being has arrived on this earth, communication is the largest single factor determining what kinds of relationships he makes with others and what happens to him in the world about him.

I have talked about choosing rather than acting from compulsion. When you feel that you have to live according to someone else's direction or live so that you never disappoint or hurt anybody, then your life is a continual assessment of whether or not you please other people.

I know people can change-right down to my bones, through every cell, in every fiber of my body-I now that people can change. It is just a question of when and in what context.

Many people are living in an emotional jail without realizing it.

Adolescents are not monsters. They are just people trying to learn how to make it among the adults in the world, who are probably not so sure themselves.

You have all played a significant part in my development of loving. As a result, my life has been rich and full, so I leave feeling very grateful.

Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference

The full life is filled with vulnerability, not defense. You face whatever feeling there is.

We can learn something new anytime we believe we can.

Our biggest problem as human beings is not knowing that we don't know.

I give life to that which I notice. What I don't notice dies.

Problems are not the problem; coping is the problem.

I want to appreciate you without judging. Join you without invading. Invite you without demanding. Leave you without guilt.

Put together all the existing families and you have society. It is as simple as that. Whatever kind of training took place in the individual family will be reflected in the kind of society that these families create.

The Problem is never the problem! It is only a symptom of something much deeper.

I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.

What lingers from the parent's individual past, unresolved or incomplete, often becomes part of her or his irrational parenting.

As a therapist, I am a companion. I try to help people tune into their own wisdom.

The recommended daily requirement for hugs is: four per day for survival, eight per day for maintenance, and twelve per day for growth.

It is O. K. for me to feel angry and to express it in responsible ways.

So much is asked of parents, and so little is given.

I feel that adolescence has served its purpose when a person arrives at adulthood with a strong sense of self-esteem, the ability to relate intimately, to communicate congruently, to take responsibility, and to take risks. The end of adolescence is the beginning of adulthood. What hasn't been finished then will have to be finished later.

Problems are not the problem: coping is the problem.

Rearing a family is probably the most difficult job in the world. It resembles two business firms merging their respective resources to make a single product. All the potential headaches of that operation are present when an adult male and an adult female join to steer a child from infancy to adulthood.

Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is. The way you cope with that is what makes the difference.

It's sad that children cannot know their parents when they were younger; when they were loving, courting, and being nice to one another. By the time children are old enough to observe, the romance has all too often faded or gone underground.

Families and societies are small and large versions of one another. Both are made up of people who have to work together, whose destinies are tied up with one another. Each features the components of a relationship: leaders perform roles relative to the led, the young to the old, and male to female; and each is involved with the process of decision-making, use of authority, and the seeking of common goals.

Life is not what it's supposed to be.It's what it is.The way you cope with it is what makes the difference

Taste everything, but swallow only what fits.

I am me and I am okay.

The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand, and touch another person.

Whoever does not miss the Soviet Union has no heart. Whoever wants it back has no brain.

Sometimes it is necessary to be lonely in order to prove that you are right.

Terrorism has no nationality or religion.

We shall fight against them, throw them in prisons and destroy them.

We need business to understand its social responsibility, that the main task and objective for a business is not to generate extra income and to become rich and transfer the money abroad, but to look and evaluate what a businessman has done for the country, for the people, on whose account he or she has become so rich.