"If you can attribute your success entirely to your own mental effort, to your own attitude, to some spiritual essence that you have that is better than other people's, then that must feel pretty good."

"So even though I consider myself a fairly upbeat person, energetic and things like that, I never do very well on happiness tests."

"You can't go around telling people, 'I'm on a mission to discover the purpose of life.' Not if you're hoping to prolong the conversation."

"The universe does not reveal itself to undergraduates or fools: This is the entire premise of higher education."

"It was a real surprise to me to come across the evidence that Christianity might once have been a danced religion. Certainly, some of the early church leaders thought this was great and spoke of what seems to have been circle dancing, perhaps around an altar."

"I have a Ph.D. in cell biology. And that's really manual labor. I mean, experimental science, you do it with your hands. So it's very different. You're out there in a lab, cleaning test tubes, and it just wasn't that fascinating."

"In 1993, 89 of the 'Fortune' top 100 companies were administering the Myers-Briggs test to their employees. The philosophy behind personality tests is that they don't want you to be in the wrong kind of job. The tests have been completely exposed as nonsense."

"When I was 17, I had an experience that I later learned could be called a 'mystical experience.' It was almost violent. No faces, voices, nothing like that. It is like the world burst and flamed into life all around me. That is not a great image, but it is as good as I will ever do."

"The very least you can do in your life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof."

"The friend who holds your hand and says the wrong thing is made of dearer stuff than the one who stays away."

"She kept swimming out into life because she hadn't yet found a rock to stand on."

"Listen. Slide the weight from your shoulders and move forward. You are afraid you might forget, but you never will. You will forgive and remember."

"Everything you're sure is right can be wrong in another place."

"But kids don't stay with you if you do it right. It's the one job where, the better you are, the more surely you won't be needed in the long run."

"God doesn’t need to punish us. He just grants us a long enough life to punish ourselves."

"Listen. To live is to be marked. To live is to change, to acquire the words of a story, and that is the only celebration we mortals really know. In perfect stillness, frankly, I've only found sorrow."

"I’ve seen how you can’t learn anything when you’re trying to look like the smartest person in the room."

"What I want is so simple I almost can't say it: elementary kindness."

"The changes we dread most may contain our salvation."

"I attempted briefly to consecrate myself in the public library, believing every crack in my soul could be chinked with a book."

"Close the door. Write with no one looking over your shoulder. Don't try to figure out what other people want to hear from you; figure out what you have to say. It's the one and only thing you have to offer."

"The power is in the balance: we are our injuries, as much as we are our successes."

"There is a strange moment in time, after something horrible happens, when you know it's true, but you haven't told anyone yet."

"A mother's body remembers her babies-the folds of soft flesh, the softly furred scalp against her nose. Each child has it's own entreaties to body and soul."

"In a world as wrong as this one, all we can do is make things as right as we can."

"Memory is a complicated thing, a relative to truth, but not its twin."

"It's what you do that makes your soul."

"Pain reaches the heart with electrical speed, but truth moves to the heart as slowly as a glacier."

"The most important thing about a person is always the thing you don't know."

"It is true that I do not speak as well as I can think. But that is true of most people, as nearly as I can tell."

"If we can't, as artists, improve on real life, we should put down our pencils and go bake bread."

"The truth needs so little rehearsal."

"It's frightening when things you love appear suddenly changed from what you have always known."

"Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws."

"Sugar, it's no parade but you'll get down the street one way or another, so you'd just as well throw your shoulders back and pick up the pace."

"But I've swallowed my pride before, that's for sure. I'm practically lined with my mistakes on the inside like a bad-wallpapered bathroom."

"Your dreams, what you hope for and all that, it's not separate from your life. It grows right up out of it."

"Every betrayal contains a perfect moment, a coin stamped heads or tails with salvation on the other side."

"Humans can be fairly ridiculous animals."

"Memories do not always soften with time; some grow edges like knives."

"To live is to change, to acquire the words of a story, and that is the only celebration we mortals really know."

"How pointless life could be, what a foolish business of inventing things to love, just so you could dread losing them."

"No other continent has endured such an unspeakably bizarre combination of foreign thievery and foreign goodwill."

"Silence has many advantages. When you do not speak, other people presume you to be deaf or feeble-minded and promptly make a show of their own limitations."

"If you never stepped on anybody's toes, you never been for a walk."

"I lost a child," she said, meeting Lusa's eyes directly. "I thought I wouldn't live through it. But you do. You learn to love the place somebody leaves behind for you."

"Now I'm starting to think he wasn't supposed to be my whole life, he was just this doorway to me."

"A human being can be good or bad or right or wrong, maybe. But how can you say a person is illegal? You just can't. That's all there is to it."

"Morning always comes."

"Thanks for this day, for all birds safe in their nests, for whatever this is, for life."