I once told a date, 'I love what you're wearing!' She replied, 'Aw, thanks. I've gotten so many compliments on it. Yours means the most though!' She didn't need to tell me guys were hitting on her - my imagination went there anyway.

I've spoken to over 10,000 guys in my career, so I know what they think when it comes to dating.

If you're in business and you make a sales call and that lead doesn't buy from you, you don't sit there all day mourning the loss of that lead. You go out there and make 10 more sales calls!

Quite simply, if someone tells you often that they're dreaming of, or thinking about, you, it means you're someone they see as a big part of their life. When you're in their head, it means you're also pretty close to their heart.

You become a better dater when you have a truly fulfilling life that is not dependent on someone else. Even if someone leaves, your life continues unscathed.

Lose the group shot in front of the Eiffel Tower, where it's impossible to tell you from your friends. He's not going on a date with Paris or your entourage, he's going on a date with you and he wants to know what you look like.

Don't just praise a guy's achievements. Praise the personality traits that made them possible.

Choose a guy who has a similar level of drive as you. There's nothing sexy about being your boyfriend's life coach.

When women want things to get more serious they can come across like relationship saleswomen but a man wants to think his own mind took him there.

Women all think that if a guy likes you he will come and talk to you. That's nonsense - 'actually the opposite is true. The more attractive he finds you, the less likely it is he'll talk to you.

A simple thank-you goes a long way.

The whole 'Secret' sensation really rubbed me the wrong way; I just don't believe in it. The grain of truth is that what you focus on you'll get more of, and that's got to do with the reticular activating system in your brain, not 'The Secret.'

Once a date asked me what I do, so I said that my company empowers women in their dating lives. Her response? 'Aw, that's so cute!' Cute is how my babysitter described me when I was 7 years old. Simple fix: Replace cute with hot and he'll feel like James Bond.

He's more of a slob than you? Instead of condemning, state your standards: 'I need to live in a place that's clean. I respect that it's not a big deal to you, but it's important to me to enjoy my home.' This removes ego.

The coolest people reveal themselves gradually, and flirting isn't just about making yourself look great, it's about making him feel great too.

You have to connect on emotion not logic. People go on dates and it becomes a CV exercise. Logic is someone asking 'what do you do for a job?' when you should ask 'why do you do that? What is it you enjoy?'

Halloween might be a time that's renowned for ghosts, but we no longer experience ghosts only on Halloween. In our dating lives, we are now used to being 'ghosted' the whole year round.

If he wants you over for the holidays or can't wait for you to have dinner with his buddies, it's a sign he wants them to love you as much as he does.

Guys don't approach women who look like they are going to say 'Sorry, no.'

Men feel safe and more open when they know that the woman they're talking to approves of their passion for a particular band/book/cereal.

I honestly believe there is nothing more important in a person's life than love and I want to show women how to have fun and get the best out of dating.

We've all grown wary of being lied to online - let's face it, dudes are always exaggerating their heights - so trust is a hot commodity.

I don't think the idea of being seen changes in its importance. I think it's always true. When relationships start to have problems, it's almost always because we don't feel seen by that person anymore.

You know he's invested when he doesn't treat his 'friend time' and 'girlfriend time' as mutually exclusive.

Women in their thirties are much more nervous about dating. They feel time is 'running out for them. They want to get married and have a family. The women I see in their forties and fifties know what they want. They are amazing, confident women with good jobs, but they are just struggling to find someone who is their equal.

Here's the truth that everyone misses - you must not invest in a guy based on how much you like him. You have to invest in a guy based on how much he invests in you.

There's nothing like a man watching a roomful of guys look his woman up and down to make him desire what he already has (and vice versa).

So many books are designed to help you with your love life spend their time telling you what you can't do. What I love about 'Get The Guy' is it spends the majority of its time telling you what you can do.

Women often try too hard to say what they think a man wants to hear, to like what he likes, to laugh at every joke, and get so nervous talking about themselves that nothing interesting comes out.

There's so much more to a book than just the reading.

I had a brother who was my savior, made my childhood bearable.

I adored Mickey Mouse when I was a child. He was the emblem of happiness and funniness.

Newt Gingrich is an idiot of great renown... There's something so hopelessly gross and vile about him it's hard to take him seriously.

I don't write for children. I write and someone says it's for children.

You know who my gods are, who I believe in fervently? Herman Melville, Emily Dickinson - she's probably the top - Mozart, Shakespeare, Keats. These are wonderful gods who have gotten me through the narrow straits of life.

Most children - I know I did when I was a kid - fantasize another set of parents. Or fantasize no parents. They don't tell their real parents about that - you don't want to tell Mom and Dad. Kids lead a very private life. And I was a typical child, I think. I was a liar.

Girls are infinitely more complicated than boys and women more than men. And there's no doubt about that. We just don't like to think about it. Certainly the men don't like to think about it.

I didn't have much confidence in myself... never.

I don't believe in an afterlife but I still fully expect to see my brother again.

There must be more to life than having everything.

I'm totally crazy, I know that.

My work is not great, but it's respectable. I have no false illusions.

We're animals. We're violent. We're criminal.

I don't need faith.

I'm sick of 'Wild Things.'

Do parents sit down and tell their kids everything? I don't know. I don't know.

In plain terms, a child is a complicated creature who can drive you crazy. There's a cruelty to childhood, there's an anger.

I've convinced myself - I hope I'm right - that children despair of you if you don't tell them the truth.

I think people should be given a test much like driver's tests as to whether they're capable of being parents! It's an art form. I talk a lot. And I think a lot. And I draw a lot. But never in a million years would I have been a parent. That's just work that's too hard.

To get a child's trust - you may know or not - is a very hard thing to do. They're so used to not believing adults - because adults tell tales and lies all the time.