If you find yourself annoyed at his lazy tendencies early on, be wary - because that's one trait of his that won't magically change when he gets a better job or finally joins that gym.

Friendship language is, 'You look nice tonight.' Desire language is, 'You look hot tonight.'

By getting hurt, you might realize that what you thought you wanted and needed wasn't actually right for you. And that's a lesson only heartbreak and pain can teach you.

The truth is men like women who are challenging, and set them standards to live up too. Caveat: This doesn't mean he wants someone to neurotically pick at everything all the time.

When life hits you hard, it can throw you off course. But how you handle that adversity can teach you so much about yourself and change your perspective on what you actually want from life.

Too many people say they want someone extraordinary in their lives but they aren't extraordinary themselves.

The need to make sure everyone knows all of the great stuff about us is usually an insecurity in itself.

Commitment phobes will be scared of making plans for the next weekend, let alone six months from now!

Remember that the most confident people make others feel confident around them.

People en masse have lost the ability to go out there and meet people in real life.

If you label someone lazy or a liar, he'll feel like that for life. Worse, guys lose motivation to change when we feel like your perception of us is set in stone.

With any form of change, it's kind of like you're dislodging something. Once you've done it a little bit, you can open the floodgates.

It's powerful for a guy to know your exes have regrets.

When you say yes to the invite of someone new, you're also saying yes to their network. And their network contains people you may be attracted to.

If you want to meet a better quality man, you're going to have to get used to taking more risks.

The key to asking someone out is to not really ask. In other words, don't feel your sentence needs to end with a question mark.

There is literally no one on earth who isn't interested in relationship dynamics, or how to meet someone special. Or if they've already met someone special, how to make that relationship as good as it can be. It's a universal subject.

Speaking from personal experience, if someone asked me on a date, I would still want to pay.

Plenty of casual daters will throw you off with maddening phrases like 'I'm just enjoying having fun with you.' This doesn't make them a bad person, but it's your call now how to respond. Just don't assume 'having fun' or any such cliche means they're going to suddenly decide they want a relationship next week.

I think people don't want be alone. Ultimately, we want to feel connected. We want to feel like there is someone who actually sees us in the world. That's the big thing: to be seen. How many people actually feel seen?

Just because someone isn't allowing you to pay for the date, it doesn't mean you can't contribute on some level. For example, if someone took you for dinner and a movie, they may have paid for the dinner, they may have paid for the movie tickets, but then you buy the popcorn.

It's instinct: Men love to feel like they take care of you. Knowing you feel protected makes his ego grow two sizes bigger.

Women are conditioned to believe Prince Charming is going to come and sweep them off their feet.

One of the people I most admired was Christopher Hitchens. He was extremely polarizing but extremely honest, to a fault sometimes, but I respected him for that, and I loved his debating style.

Working with guys allowed me to at least understand guys in a way that I could then say to women, 'Look, here's what I've learned about men.'

I love when people come up to me and tell me they are in a relationship because of me. But I equally love the breakup stories, the person who says, 'I left someone last week because of you.' I like to think I saved 10 years of their lives.

The thing that actually makes a guy settle down is when a woman comes along who has a different set of standards than the other women he's met. Then she immediately becomes unique.

Women can be made to feel like that makes them seem 'too demanding,' but it's better than wasting time on someone who isn't planning any future with you.

You invest in someone based on how much they invest in you.

Any online dating profile is about making us more human, more three-dimensional.

We live in a world of social media, dating apps, online profiles where everyone is portraying themselves in 2D, trying to look cool. Portray yourself in three dimensions.

I am known predominantly for dealing with people's relationships.

Women leave my seminars with a level of confidence they didn't have before. They can go out, meet people, start conversations and have a good time. They don't have to worry about waiting for someone great to come along as they know they have the tools to make it happen.

Too many women are being chosen by men that they don't choose.

A hint of competition goes a long way with guys.

Even when I was young, I cared too much about what other people thought, especially girls.

I really like classic, simple clothes.

The number one mistake people make in attraction is either doing too much or too little.

Anything that a man hears is sexy is gold to him.

Being in a relationship doesn't mean you're successful. You are successful if you are happy.

One of the classic mistakes is we think if we get closer to someone by just listening to all of their relationship woes, we're going to suddenly end up romantically involved.

Even the toughest of eggs to crack will have soppy, soft moments when they feel in love. Usually they'll want to be more physically affectionate in terms of hugging and kissing, and they'll feel more protective towards you.

I believe that if a guy doesn't offer to pay the whole thing when he asks you on a date, he wasn't taught right. But I also believe if a woman on a date allows him to pay for the whole thing without at least offering to pay half, she wasn't taught right.

I have strong views, and I can't imagine not ever being honest about those views.

One of the most overwhelming things about dating is imagining going on an entire dinner date for an evening with someone you don't even know you have chemistry with yet.

People don't want to be put on the spot over whether or not they like you, they want to come to that conclusion themselves. It's ok to let someone know you're interested, but there's no need to go any further than that.

Your Friday and Saturday nights are sacred. When a new guy asks for a prime-time date early on, suggest drinks and make him the warm-up.

Getting hurt in a relationship is simply a part of life.

Love is closeness.

Think of your early dates as a chance to leave clues about your expectations with a little technique called pre-framing. Say: 'My friend gets annoyed because her boyfriend never opens the car door for her. It's a shame when guys don't do those little things.'