When we push against who we naturally are, we feel stress, things don't progress easily, we beat ourselves up for getting crappy results, and everything is an effort.

You have to get outside of your comfort zone if you're going to make significant changes in your life, and since few things scare people like the unknown, feeling fear is an excellent sign that you're on the right track.

One of the biggest obstacles to making lots of money is not a lack of good ideas or opportunities or time, or that we're too slovenly or stupid: it's that we refuse to give ourselves permission to become rich.

This is part of what makes me, ahem, an excellent houseguest: I'm game. I'm flexible. I'll make you feel okay about eating an entire chocolate cake in one sitting because I'm right there by your side with my own fork.

For me, I feel like God is intuition and an inner knowing. I think it's difficult to be successful without that because that's where you have to come from if you're really going to knock it out of the park. For me, it's more a sort of a universal energy.

Write down everything you feel about money - 'I love you;' 'I wish I had more of you;' 'I don't trust you;' - Then, look at the ones that aren't quite so pretty and figure out how you can shift them to be in a more positive, grateful space.

A healthy desire for wealth is not greed. It's a desire for life.

When my plans to become a world-famous rockstar didn't pan out, I decided to try being a lesbian instead, didn't pull that off either, and wrote my second book, the national bestseller, 'The Straight Girl's Guide To Sleeping With Chicks.'

Acknowledging that there's something you desire, not going after it, and deciding that, 'You know what, it's fine; I'll just focus on what I do have, make myself a ham sandwich, and call it a day,' isn't happiness. It's denial.

So many people live lives of silent mediocrity, convinced that what really matters to them is out of their reach. So they settle.

I grew up in suburban New York, and my family wasn't much on traveling, so when I arrived at my alma mater, The Colorado College, I'd never been out West before, seen a 14,000-foot mountain, experienced snow in 70-degree weather, or come into contact with something called a 'dude.'

I got my first real job, one that didn't involve wearing a hairnet or bending over the hood of a wet car with a towel in my hand, in the early '90s working for CBS Records. While there, I started my first of several rock bands and eventually wrote my first book, the semi-autobiographical novel, 'Don't Sleep With Your Drummer.'

If your entire relationship with money is devoid of fun, money becomes something you fear and loathe rather than something to celebrate and enjoy.

Even though most of us love, love, love it when we're flush with cash, and we fantasize about what we'd do with more of it, we'd feel gross saying 'I love money' out loud.

We're all born with the capacity to be our best selves - to be who we really are. Then we hear the messages that exist in our fear-based society, and we get beaten down. Being confident means peeling away the doubt, fear, and worry and getting back to our core. Confident people have learned how to get back to their pure selves.

So many people subconsciously shy away from getting rich because they believe they'll be judged, they'll lose the people they love, they believe that desiring money is a bad thing, money is the root of all evil, etc.

Pick the one thing that you've really been putting off, that seems too big or too scary or too whatever, and do it this week. You might be very pleasantly surprised.

We live in a fearful society that has perfected the art of doubting, weaned us on worry, and trained us to focus on everything that can or has gone wrong.

Bravely going out into the world and trying, yet still deep down believing you're ruled by your past circumstances, is like forgiving someone but still hoping they sit in something wet.

I do recall one moment when I went to India by myself. I was paralyzed with fear to travel alone, but I had this intuitive hint that I had to do it. It was transformative and beautiful.

Get practiced at taking deep breaths before you speak. This will give you the space to stop, notice what was about to come out of your mouth, and course correct if needed.

Sexuality has become much more fluid, and you no longer have to be locked up into a convenient compartment.

I have a theory that people tell you everything you need to know the first week you meet them. And often even on the first date.

Wanting money has been made so taboo. We're not allowed to talk about it or admit we want it, and yet we use it every single minute of our lives.

If you want to be a powerful woman, you need money. It gives you options and freedom so you don't have to think about money all the time.

See failures as learning experiences, not character faults.

At times, I find a degree of inflexibility in the more traditional homosexual community that seems to me to be every bit as 'straight' as straight.

Awareness is the first key step in breaking the spell of your not-so-awesome financial 'reality.'

We often don't value what comes naturally to us because we think that everyone must have those abilities.

The good news is that you have everything you need to lift yourself off the couch to start kicking butt. You just have to decide that you're going to do it, not that you're too lazy to.

The good news about being full of crap is that once you're willing to admit that you're full of crap, you can de-crap yourself.

Nobody gets to the top without failing.

Getting a compliment, even if you need a cooty shot afterwards, is still a compliment.

If you want something badly enough, and decide that you will get it, you will.

If you're in a ditch, and you're looking down, you can see where you're going but you can't see the way out.

All living things come hardwired with certain traits and characteristics that are part of our nature, meaning that these things come naturally to us: they're what we're meant to do, and they're how universal intelligence flows though us best. Birds gotta fly, fish gotta swim, etc.

Technology gets a bad rap for keeping us glued to our screens instead of being present with whomever is around us, and while this can be true, it also allows us to connect with billions of people all over the world. For free.

If something bothers you, focus on the solution or the desired outcome, not the part that has you spinning out in the middle of the night.

If the point of an activity is to be relaxing, changing that point to money isn't a great idea. Then you have to show up for it differently, and that can take the fun out of it, absolutely. I'm a big fan of turning your hobbies into businesses, but not if it's the hobby you do to relax and unplug.

I find that in my own life and with the people I've been coaching, when people make the decision to get rich, they're available to do things that are outside of their comfort zones and stretch themselves.

Our 'realities' are make-believe - whatever we make ourselves believe, we experience.

Take lots of walks. It's the best way to discover your world, both inner and outer.

If you hang out with a bunch of sad sacks who think the world sucks and there's no possibility, you'll start to believe that. But if you hang out with people who think everything is possible and actually do the impossible on a regular basis, you will believe that, and you will be able to achieve that.

Talk to strangers. They're never who you think they are at first.

When you understand that making, saving, and spending money is all based on the thoughts you're thinking and the actions that these thoughts lead to, you can completely transform your reality - and your bank account.

You must go after the things you desire like your life depends on it, because guess what? Your life does depend on it. The life you truly want to live does.

We don't even realize how loaded of a topic money is. We've got really serious judgments on it.

It actually is a lot easier to get rich than one would think.

Back in the day, I was always broke and was living in a converted garage at the age of 40, and then I decided I was unavailable to live my life with that reality, so I decided to change it.

Scare yourself every day, and do something that makes you feel totally excited and totally terrified.