What I was told is that I was born to a mother who was a Catholic, while her boyfriend was not. They couldn't get married unless they put me up for adoption.

If I start tracing, I bet I will find a writer in my family tree.

I was in the orphanage in New Orleans until I was almost a year old. I don't think I ever got held by my mama, so that was completely and utterly traumatic. I think it was trauma from the first breath, and I think I've spent my whole life trying to heal from that trauma. So it shaped my brain.

I'm an old-fashioned folk singer. I stand in front of an audience with a guitar and a barstool.

I've always been drawn to the hard story, the trauma, because I think art can turn it around.

In a lot of ways, songwriting helped save my life.

Recovery stabilized me; songwriting gave me a purpose.

Melody's like tweezers that go into the infection and pull out the wounded part. You can almost not stay silent in the face of a melody that matches your emotion. You feel seen.

I'm grateful to songwriting and recovery to bringing me to a place of peace.

What I've found at 48 years old is that there's nothing about me that's unique.

What I'm finding is there's an awful lot about adoption and relinquishment and the complicated nature of family that we, as human beings, haven't been able to have a real discussion about yet without a lot of censorship.

I'm from New Orleans, and I have a French last name - although I have no real relationship with my last name because it's not my name. I don't know my name.

I don't know who my dad is.

There's such a thing as a tribe - and family of choice.

Soldiers are trained not to be vulnerable, but when they come home, they've got to learn it.

I don't have the experience of being in a war.

I don't play everything I write. I mean, everything I write is not that good. I bring out into the world the ones I think that are really worthy of an audience's attention.

A lot of times, a bunch of songs have to be written to get to the next really good one.

I teach songwriting a lot, and I always tell my students, 'You gotta write the little songs sometimes to get to the next big song in the chute.' You gotta write 'em to get to it. You never know what's going to be a little song or a big song.

I think having near-death experiences, they sure made me free.

I felt my whole life like I didn't have a family, and I needed one. So I had to build one, and you build one with faith, hope, and the healing power of love - or you end up the 'Unabomber.' That's the choice.

Songs are here to help us: they build bridges from heart to heart.

I long for real and true connection. It has been the theme of all the songs in my whole life.

Music and books, I think, were the two things I trusted the most as a child - songs and books.

I think each veteran's soul has something that it needs to say. I know from my own personal traumas, it's very hard to know what that is. But when I'm watching someone else struggle, it's not as confusing for me, 'cause it's not my struggle, so I can help identify that.

'I Drink' took me two years to write.

War is hell. Sending young people to conflicts that are unwinnable and unresolvable - it puts them in a position where they're going to suffer. And yet their experience is that they're proud of their service, and they should be. Service freely rendered is a noble thing.

I think if people really listened to what our families who serve go through, we could have a realistic discussion of what it means to send young people to war.

Art, when done well, creates empathy.

I haven't been in the military, but I've known my share of pain. It allows me to sit with someone who's struggling and not be afraid.

Being in recovery for a lot of years now, I've worked with a lot of people who've gotten sober and sat with a lot of folks who are suffering. Bearing witness is a really underrated thing; it's a big damn deal.

They send women into combat without being prepared for women in combat. The men resented them being there, and it was just very, very difficult for them, and they had to fight for the respect they were earning. And that's all they want is the respect.

As a songwriter, I was always mining my own depths, which were filled with confusion and darkness.

I spent my 18th birthday in jail. Charges were dropped as long as I promised never to return to the state of Kansas. My parents took me home to Louisiana. I lasted there a week. Then I ran away.

I keep seeing the headline on articles that says something like 'Mary Gauthier Helping Our Veterans.' It's troubling - and it's condescending. Whatever I'm doing as a songwriter to help them tell their stories, they're giving it back to me double, triple, quadruple.

A lot of songwriters have written about soldiers and war, but very few have written with them.

I did not know that the wounds of war are often invisible.

We can't see ourselves very clearly. This I learned as a songwriter. I'm forever trying to figure out what my own truth is.

I love SongwritingWith:Soldiers.

I'm openly gay, and I've got a major label record deal in Nashville, and it happened when I was 42 years old. It's not supposed to happen that way.

In my early years, I couldn't find a community. I couldn't find anybody like me. I felt so isolated. There was nothing but shame and loneliness.

I've got lots of problems. Being gay isn't one of them.

I would make a terrible soldier, because I don't follow orders.

I'm sort of stuck in adolescence in many ways, like most artists, and march to my own beat.

It can take me many months to write one of my own songs.

I came to music and knowing a little bit about life, and I came to music knowing a lot about business - and that's a real advantage. By the time I came to music, I had purchased real estate, opened restaurants, and been in the business world, so the music business didn't blindside me.

The job of the artist is to go to the places where most other people are embarrassed to go to. And show it.

I'm a traveler and a vagabond and an observer, and the songs come through that. And that's just the way it's going to be.

I think I'll always draw from being a person that doesn't know how to have a normal life, whatever a normal life is.

I try not to eat cakes, but sugar screams my name.